Way back in January, I made a resolution to become more feminine.
Now, when I first came up with this idea, I thought of those women who made glowing skin, excellent taste, and feminine mannerisms look effortless. I know that somewhere within me, too, lies such a woman. And this year I’m going to try to bring her out a little bit more.
I have a number of phases that I have planned to complete this “mission”, if you will. It’s taken me six months to finally implement them.
Phase One: Extra Effort in Front of the Mirror
This is an easy one. How often have you heard “feminine hygiene”? It’s everywhere! It’s also one of the most difficult things for me to keep up with. I’m a tomboy-nerd by nature. I paint my nails maybe five times a year and never use tanning lotion.
However, I have started to style my hair every morning (and by style I mean put product in it after showering and blow dry), and today I did my first ever facial! It was a clay mask I found at Target, and it felt great. My next steps will probably be keeping my legs silky smooth every day, and paying special attention to my facial complexion. I already monitor breakouts, but now I’m actually investing in daily cleanser instead of just plain soap and water.
Phase Two: Putting Good Food in for a Healthy Glow
How is eating healthy feminine? It’s kind of a long shot, but I think that having good taste includes eating the good food that happens to be good for you. Now, I’ve seen some pretty drastic things that call themselves “diets”. Weight Watchers, that legendary Atkins diet, etc. I think they’re all nuts. There are only a few things that I need to maintain food health, and they are as follows:
- It’s all about the ingredients. I think twice before buying something with more than 5 ingredients in it.
- Anything homemade is better than its store-bought version, simply because I know exactly what’s in it.
- Buy fresh first, canned/prepackaged as a last resort.
- Grass-fed meat if I can afford it. (Anything not specified is corn-fed. I won’t spit statistics, but I highly recommend looking up comparisons.)
- The one thing I agree with the diet books on is that water is the best beverage.
- Eggs can make a meal. Hard-boiled, scrambled, in a sandwich, fried, etc. Quick and easy. (Don’t be fooled by “vegetarian-fed”. A chicken’s natural diet is omnivorous.)
- Yogurt with live/active cultures like acidopholus are good for the tummy.
So, in order to meet my Phase Two, I’ve got to be a smart food shopper and a good cook. It’s going well, but difficult to make a healthy choice when I feel lazy.
Phase Three: A Little Demure, A Little Wily
Women, stereotypically speaking, always have a little something up their sleeve, be it a dirty little secret or a handkerchief. Many women who embody the feminine ideals also have this insane ability to make their manner of speaking graceful. It is similar to a man’s “business speak”, but completely different from the common “passive aggressiveness”.
While this graceful speaking may be slightly out of reach for me, I know that I can become a little more feminine by knowing when to keep my mouth shut. In past relationships, I have had a problem with blurting out my insecurities about how the relationship is going. While discussing real issues may be necessary in a relationship, my outbursts certainly weren’t. Ergo Phase Three.
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That’s all I can come up with for now. I’m sure that I will find other “phases” to implement when the time comes, but these three are the core of my plan. Let’s hope I can stick to them.
