How do we admit responsibility, if we are experiencing what we claim to not want?

How do we deal with relationships going wrong?
How do we live with health or financial issues that hurt?
How do we recognize that we are experiencing the result of our own choices?
 
It seems the result of our thoughts is manifesting more quickly.
It seems clear that our fears are showing up around us.
It seems we are experiencing the result of our emotional projections.
What will it take to undo what we no longer want to be true?